Thoughts of the Day
My life has qualified me as "experienced" on such topics as Army life, parenting, mental health, loss and grief, multi-tasking, and adapting to all things new (good, bad, or indifferent). I will share my thoughts on these topics and hopefully you will find some calm in the chaos knowing that others have been where you are.
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It’s Time For You To Love Your Legs with Zaful
Our legs. Many of us seem to have issues with our legs. They are too fat. They are too skinny. They are wrinkly. They are pale. They are splotchy. They jiggle. They touch. They have visible veins. They are ashy. And this is a big one… I have heard this from a multitude of women… “I hate my knees and I need to cover them.” I hate my knees. When asked what they hate about their knees, none have been able to provide an answer other than “I don’t know. I just don’t like they way they look.” *This is a sponsored post by Zaful. As always, all thoughts and…
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The Right to Change Your Mind & Link Up On the Edge #49
Way back in the infancy of this blog, I wrote a post 39 Lessons I Have Learned on My Journey Out of the Darkness into My Happiness. It is still one of my favorite posts. It took a lot of energy to draft and it’s long. But it’s heartfelt and intense at points. Just last night the topic of women always changing their minds came up. Often, among couples this is a common joke…how the man in the relationship is steadfast and consistent in his wants, needs, ideas, and beliefs and how the female is fickle and flighty and inconsistent in making decisions. In light of this age old (mis)conception,…
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Good Versus Evil & Link Up On the Edge #47
Good versus evil. It is a universal dichotomy that is as old as time. And it is a metaphysical idea that creeps into my brain in the wee hours of the night. (Or in the shower…I often do my best philosophical thinking in the shower). It is a topic that repeats itself over and over again in movies, in television, in songs, in religion, in law, in psychology. At times, it seems as if we are almost obsessed with the idea, but more so, we are obsessed with trying to make sense of it. *This is a sponsored post. I received this scarf c/o DressLily. As always , all thoughts…
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Drop the Judgments and #SpreadTheKindness Link Up #20
As I was deciding the angle I wanted to take for this week’s #SpreadTheKindness post, I stumbled upon a Facebook status of a friend which said this: The shit that I’m passionate about is not dumb. And then it hit me what I needed to write about today in an effort to continue spreading kindness in this crazy world. We all have things that we are passionate about. Each and every one of us is unique in the combination of our different passions. Some are passionate about music. Some sports and exercise and healthy eating. Some clothing and fashion. Others are passionate about art, books, and crafting. There are people…
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The Reality of Fantasy
Fantasies. We all have them. At some point in our lives everyone engages in fantasy. I am going to be bold and even say that at some point on a daily basis most people have thoughts that would classify as fantasy. Even if for the briefest of moments. We fantasize about all sorts of things…from the benign and harmless to the crazy and potentially dangerous. We have dark fantasies, light fantasies, unrealistic ones, and ones that could very easily become reality. The subject of fantasy has been surfacing in discussions all around me recently. Usually when this happens, when a subject presents itself to me over and over again in…
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How Pornography Saved My Sex Life
Low sex drive. Decreased libido. Zero interest in intercourse. Gah. Much to my husband’s disappointment, I have been dealing with these issues for quite some time. But what causes it and how do you fix it? At least fix it to the point where both parties in the relationship can reach a satisfactory compromise? Seriously, I can go months without sex. And that’s not good. It really isn’t. It’s not good for my mental state. It’s not good for my husband’s mental state either. Resulting in a little bit of tension within our marriage around the issue of sex. I don’t want you to be mistaken, though. My marriage is very…
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So Many Hats & Link Up On the Edge #39
How many hats do you find yourself wearing? And do you have trouble finding a healthy balance in the constant changing of your hats? Figuratively, I wear so many hats…I am a mother, a wife, an Army spouse, a sister, a friend, a small business owner, and a blogger. And there are so many little hat changes that happen within each of these jobs because, as you all are well aware, each job has a million different responsibilities that go with it. Outfit Details Coat: Old Navy (No longer available, but cute Spring options here and here). Pants: Target (No longer available, but similar options here and here). Sweater: Kohl’s…
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To Dye or Not To Dye and #SpreadTheKindness Link Up #17
To dye or not to dye? That is my question. Do you or don’t you? I do. Oh, I do. And I have for most of my life. Here’s the scoop. I dyed my hair various shades of bright colors (green, red, blue, pink, purple) way back before it was cool. In fact, during my teenage years, I was labeled as a weirdo with my ever-changing rainbow locks. My genetically predetermined hair color was a boring shade of brown and I hated it. And as much as I hated it, I had an equal and opposite reaction in my love for dying my hair unnatural colors. Call it rebellion. Call…
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Love Will Prevail and #SpreadTheKindness Link Up #15
Love will prevail. These are words I spoke last week and it really got me thinking about what that means exactly. I was chatting with another mom and I was complaining about how exhausted I am parenting alone for the past 3 months while my husband has been away. And she replied with equal complaints about how difficult it is parenting with a partner who is there in body but absent in every other way. She went on to explain that maybe they were just in a rough patch and it would pass. They are 13 years into their relationship and 8 years into their marriage with two kids. They…
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A Letter to the Army from an Army Wife
Dear Army, Oh, how you torment me. Yet I would not have it any other way, I suppose. I understand that my husband is contractually obligated to you. But is he not also contractually obligated to me? Yet your contract trumps my contract…well, because he entered yours first. And when I entered my contract with my husband, I did so with this understanding. But man, I didn’t know all the ups and downs that would be involved in loving a soldier. He is gone once again, leaving me to care for the children, the household, and everything in between…all the while trying to make sure to take adequate care of…
