A Girl Walked into Another Bar & Food for Thought this Thanksgiving Day

November 22, 2018 / 21 Comments
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A girl walked into another bar. A different bar from the last time. This time she walked in alone. Because she was invited there. A few weeks had passed and there was simply silence with regard to the guy she met in the bar on that random Wednesday night. Now on a random Monday night, as she was lying on her couch watching sentimental romance movies, contentedly enjoying the peace and bliss of her own quiet solitude, she received an unexpected text message from an unidentifiable phone number that simply stated, “I’m in town. At the hotel bar.”

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Without a doubt, she knew who sent the message and her heart began to race. So much so that she began to feel faint as she scurried around her house to put herself together.  As she climbed into her car, she knew exactly which hotel bar to drive to and as she walked in, she felt a nervous excitement that she had not experienced since her teenage years. And there he was. The guy. Sitting alone in the nearly empty bar. Waiting patiently for her arrival. He stood up as she approached and they hugged. There was a desperation of sorts in that embrace. She was unable to define exactly what it was though. Could it be desire, passion, wanting, needing, missing, or simply the mere pleasure of being in each other’s presence once again? She was not sure then and she likely will never be sure what it all meant.

As the evening progressed, they once again engaged in the soul-feeding conversation on topics that only they seemed interested in. Ignited by his intellect and the mystery of his ways, she didn’t want the night to end. Entranced by the conversation, she briefly glanced around the bar and realized they were the only two in the room. Literally and quite appropriately, no one else seemed to exist. Her soul said don’t let it go right now, for you may never experience this cerebral connection again. But her rational mind kept telling her it was time to begin the conversation about good-byes. She suspected that this time really was the last time she would be in his presence, that this good-bye would be quite final. And her mind began to wonder if the memories would be enough to last a lifetime. Or if these memories, like many others, would eventually fade away over the coming years.

A deep sadness came over her. She thinks he felt a similar sort of melancholy about the whole thing. She expressed that as wonderful as the night had been, it was so very bittersweet, for now was the time that it absolutely had to come to an end. He responded that bittersweet was much better than plain old bitter. And she agreed with a smile while selfishly wanting the sweet without the bitter. And as they hugged one last time, they both whispered simultaneously, “Don’t forget me.”

As she drove home ever so slowly that night, she became a little disappointed with herself for spending too much of the evening in contemplation about the meaning of it all. Had she not learned from the last time that living in the moment and creating the memories was much more important than trying to figure out the why’s of the universe and its mysterious ways? While she may never understand the reason the universe decided to align these two strangers for such a brief period of time, she will forever be grateful for the time she had to make a meaningful connection with a person whom she admired so greatly. For now, she will have to be satisfied with the very fond memories of a stranger whom she would have never met if not for the universe and all of its ridiculousness.

So food for thought this Thanksgiving…sometimes it is better to stop questioning the why’s and how’s and what if’s and what not’s and just live right in the moment. As if nothing outside of you exists for even a brief period of time. Put the cell phones away, ignore the social media overload, don’t answer the phone, don’t take a picture. Just be…right there in the moment…and experience the universe. Be grateful for all of it. Be thankful for the memories. Be appreciative for all that you have. Experiences are what make this life fulfilling and give it meaning.  And experiences last much longer than anything you can buy in a store. Invest in your experiences.

Wishing you all a very Happy and Blessed Thanksgiving.

Keeping it on the edge,

Shelbee

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I am a midlife woman, wife, and stay-at-home mother of 2 boys and 2 cats. I have a passion for helping other women feel fabulous in the midst of this crazy, beautiful life.

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