Unexpected Gifts & #SpreadTheKindness Link Up #149
There are so many ways to spread kindness in the world. It could be something as simple as offering an unsolicited compliment to a stranger, holding the door open for the person behind you, offering words of encouragement or a helping hand to a mom struggling with a screaming toddler in the grocery store. You can spread kindness by buying the coffee for the person behind you in the Dunkin’ Donuts line, bringing dinner to a sick friend, or sending a card to someone just to let them know that you have been thinking about them.
Kindness comes in a million different varieties. It can cost you lots of money or no money at all. For example, just before Christmas of 2012, our sewer line broke from tree roots and it turned out to be the biggest home owner disaster that I have ever experienced. I know there could be worse disasters, but for me this one was bad. I lived in Pennsylvania alone with Archie who was just a toddler, I was pregnant with Ralph, and Jeff was stationed at Fort Drum nearly 300 miles away. It was 5 days before Christmas and we were already so financially strapped that my sister bought the bulk of Archie’s Christmas presents that year.
As we were having the repairs completed, everything that could go wrong went wrong. My entire front yard was dug up, there was poo water flooding my basement, I had to send Archie to Gramma’s house and I slept at the next door neighbor’s because all the water was shut off in my house (and it smelled like poo water). Between the excavator and the plumber and the town permits required (we had to dig up the sidewalk and ended up breaking the water main in the street), the bill quickly crept up to $10,000 over the course of just a few days. And no work would be done until cash was paid at every step. I don’t know about you, but we did not have $10,000 sitting in reserves for this type of emergency. And homeowner’s insurance would cover nothing “outside of the home” including the sewer line that ran from the house to the street. They would only cover the water and poo damage in the basement which was nearly nothing in comparison. We certainly could have prevented much of the damage and cost had we known about basement waterproofing and special insurance riders that cover such things.
And then a few days after Christmas, there was a knock on the door. I wasn’t expecting anyone but we were feeling pretty good as my sister had also paid a photographer to come take family/maternity photos for us. So we were all festive doing our photo shoot in the living room as I bounded out to the front door. There was an unfamiliar elderly lady and her husband standing there. They inquired about what was going on in our front yard. I explained. The kind woman then told me that she delivered Meals-on-Wheels to some of my neighbors and had been informed that my husband was in the military and didn’t currently live with us. She went on to tell me that her father had just passed away and had left her a significant amount of money and she felt moved by the holiday spirit to help someone else with her unexpected windfall. She had a check in her hand made out for $5,000 and told me she was not going to accept refusal from me, she just needed a name to put on the check. Jeff and I accepted this unexpected gift with tears in our eyes and so much gratitude in our hearts. This kind couple left us with a check, good blessings, and a wish that we merely pay it forward.
I will never ever forget that gesture. And I will always continue to do my part to spread kindness all around me. While I am not in a position to gift anyone $5,000, I do have a platform where I can make sure to let my readers know that there are so many kind people in this world. They love for the sake of loving, they care for the sake of caring, they help for the sake of helping, and they give for the sake of giving.
Recently, I received another unexpected gift. Not $5,000. But still with the same amount of love and kindness and I still appreciate the gesture to the same extent. Because no matter how big or small a gift may be, it is the thought behind it that really does matter the most.
My friend Stephanie, a woman I know from high school, who follows my blog and has often reached out to me for styling tips, recently surprised me with an unexpected gift. While Stephanie and I were not the closest of friends in high school, we have become quite great friends in midlife mostly because of my blog. That is really my favorite part of blogging, the wonderful connections and friends that I have made along the way. I know we bloggers often discuss the great blogging friendships we form in this community. But I have also made quite a few really wonderful friends in people who are not bloggers, but loyal readers of my blog. I can’t imagine not having these friends in my life now, just as I cannot imagine a life without Shelbee on the Edge.
Anyway, Stephanie recently ordered this adorable olive jumpsuit from Amazon and it didn’t fit her. So she reordered the correct size for herself and rather than returning the incorrect size to Amazon, she sent it to me. With the cutest card, too. It is really the sweetest jumpsuit and it is incredibly comfortable! But I have to admit, I had some trouble styling it. It was giving me all kinds of wedgies…front and back! So I ended up layering a sweater over it and I think it looks pretty stinking cute for a cozy, casual Fall look. Thanks so much, Steph! You rock!
On the topic of unexpected gifts of kindness, as I was drafting this post, I received an email from Mireille of Chez Mireille in response to yesterday’s post. In case you missed it, I introduced a new little series for my blog, The Boy Fashion Blogger: Introducing Radical Ralphie. Mireille has this adorable jacket hanging unworn in her son’s closet for the past few years and she thought Ralph might like to have it for a future style post. I can’t wait to style him up in this fun jacket! I am so appreciative for the gesture and quite literally feeling a bit overwhelmed by all of the kindness that surrounds me. Thank you, Mireille! You also rock!
Have you been spreading kindness all around you lately? You really do get back what you put out into the world!
And now the featured favorites from last week’s party.
Reader Favorite (Most Clicked)
Pamela of Style Yourself Confident shared a fun and helpful post, 5 Common Style Mistakes. I have made every one of these mistakes, as I am sure most of us have, but Pamela has offered some great tips on how to retrain ourselves and stop cluttering up our closets with nonsense.
My Favorite Fashion Post
Rebecca of Rebecca Tries Trousers shared the most perfect floral Maxi Dress. I swear Rebecca is a thrifting goddess because she finds some of the most amazing second hand pieces. Seriously, how brilliantly unique and fun is this dress?
My Favorite Non-Fashion Post
Lia of Southern Yankee DIY shared the cutest Christmas crafting idea in her post, Easy DIY Santa Cookie Tray. I am not the craftiest person, but my husband is pretty handy. I promptly forwarded this post to him to make this adorable cookie tray with the boys.
Keeping it on the edge,
Shelbee
Linking up with these Fabulous Link Parties.
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Outfit Details: Jumpsuit-Amazon (Gift from Stephanie) / Tee shirt-Target (Old) / Sweater-Old Navy (Thrifted) / Hat-Torrid (Old) / Boots-Gift from my husband (Old) / Earrings-c/o Anjolee / Necklace and Sock-Old
60 Comments
Jacqui Berry
How lovely to receive this gift, and the jacket looks wonderful too – be your son was thrilled! Carry on the good work Shelbee – you rock girl! Jacqui xx
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Thanks so much, Jacqui! He hasn’t received the jacket yet, but I will be certain to let you all know his reaction! Have a great day, my friend.
xoxo
Shelbee
Pamela
Hi Shelbee – Thank you for highlighting my ‘common mistakes’ post. Let me say how much I love to see the stunning backdrops you search out for your photos, always a delight.
Pamela x
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Thanks so much, Pamela! I live in a small town so I end up using a lot of the same places for photos, but it is fun to drive around looking for new spots.
xoxo
Shelbee
Tamar A Strauss-Benjamin
Kindness matters!! I work so hard to help my students be kind. Cute outfit!
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Tamar, thank you so much for your kind words and for teaching the little ones the importance of being kind. You rock!
xoxo
Shelbee
Kathrine Eldridge
Love hearing these stories of kindness Shelbee! It really put things in perspective. The jumpsuit is adorable and I love how you styled it. Thanks for the link up my friend!
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Kathrine, thank you so much! It is good to remind ourselves every once in a while about how much kindness is out there. I hope you have a wonderful day, my friend!
xoxo
Shelbee
mireille
Your post had me crying and laughing.. poo and wedgies! It is amazing how a simple act of kindness can make our day! Staying at home with the kiddos has made me realize how important relationships are and this blogging community had been awesome! Yesterday, Jodie took the time to explain to me how to do a couple things with my stories and the gesture of taking time in her day to reply to my emails was so appreciated.
http://www.chezmireillefashiontravelmom.com
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Mireille, thank you so much! I am glad that I could make you feel all the feels in one little post! I am so excited for Ralphie to receive his new jacket! You are so sweet to think of him and send it his way. Jodie is so amazing, as are many of our blogger friends. Always willing to give a helping hand. I just received some wonderful help from Sherry of Just Live Joy. I am always grateful for the gestures! And I always pay it forward. Have a wonderful day, my friend.
xoxo
Shelbee
Chrissy
What an amazing story Shelbee. I’ve lost count of the unexpected blessings we’ve seen and/or received I hope that I’m adding to that pot for others as well.
And how thoughtful of your sweet friend to send you something to play with, right? And I love that you were determined to make them work. Nicely done my cyber friend – the boots are fabulous!
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Thanks so much, Chrissy! Isn’t it amazing how much love and kindness surrounds us? It just makes us want to give even more!
xoxo
Shelbee
Ellibelle
What a nice unexpected gesture from the elderly couple during your time in need!
And how wonderful of your friend to send the jumpsuit to you rather than return! I think it looks great on you and I love how you layered it with the sweater for a fun fall look! The jacket for Ralphie looks so cute, I’m sure he’ll love wearing it!
Thanks for hosting the linkup!
Ellibelle’s Corner
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Ellibelle, thanks so much! There is so much kindness in the world, yet it always surprises me when it comes in the most unexpected ways! I hope you have a wonderful day!
xoxo
Shelbee
Shauna
I always enjoy holding the door open for strangers, (even if they don’t say thank you after I do it) 🙂 Hehe! Spreading kindness is SO important, especially during the holidays. Love this message, Shelbee!
Shauna
http://www.lipglossandlace.net
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Shauna, thank you so much! And thanks for doing your part to keep kindness alive and well in the world!
xoxo
Shelbee
Nancy
Wow, those people with the checque were extremely generous. And Stephanie and Mireille too. I live in a total different world. Here we are not that social. That’s the part I dislike the most about being Dutch.
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Nancy, thanks so much for reading. I do find that I am surrounded by kindness and generosity more often than not. You should move to New York!
xoxo
Shelbee
jess jannenga
I believe in small gestures! i love to send cards – even if it is a lost art! I really enjoyed reading about your neighbor who helped you all, what a beautiful gesture! And Frankie is going to look cool in that bomber jacket. It really is important to be kind and generous to others-
Have a great day!
jess xx
http://www.elegantlydressedandstylish.com
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Thanks so much, Jess, for your wonderful comment and for always spreading kindness as well! I had laugh that you called my Ralphie “Frankie” because Frankie is our cat’s name! Hahaha.
xoxo
Shelbee
jess jannenga
BTW, love that hat on you with those chunky boots!
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Aw,thanks so much! I have had these combat boots forever!
xoxo
Shelbee
Lizzie
What a beautiful gesture! I feel like those are the kinds of things that mean the most (especially when it’s much needed). I think that spreading kindness is important year round and when people do for us, it gives us the push to do for others as well. It’s keeps going 🙂
Lizzie
http://www.lizzieinlace.com
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Lizzie, thanks so much for your wonderful comment and for always doing your part to keep kindness alive and well in the world! Kindness definitely perpetuates kindness in a never-ending circle. Have the most wonderful day, my friend!
xoxo
Shelbee
Brian Hilbert
Thanks for hosting. Always a great party!
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Brian, thanks so much for joining us! Have a fantastic day!
xoxo
Shelbee
Ashley
Oh wow- what an amazing story! There really are angels on earth.
And digging your overalls, babe! Super cute!
-Ashley
Le Stylo Rouge
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Aw, thanks so much, Ashley! Yes, indeed, angels do walk amongst us. No doubt about that! Have a wonderful day, my friend.
xoxo
Shelbee
Lauren Sparks
The story of your generous neighbor warms my heart. God provides and uses those who will allow Him. laurensparks.net
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Yes, indeed, Lauren. Thanks so much for reading and commenting. I hope you have a blessed day!
xoxo
Shelbee
Patrick Weseman
So very cool. I always say it is better to be nice than right. As people we are much nicer than we give ourselves credit for. Looking very nice. Thanks for hosting and I hope that you have a wonderful week.
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Thanks so much, Patrick! I agree… we are surrounded by kindness. We must keep that perspective! I hope you have a wonderful day, my friend.
xoxo
Shelbee
Carrie @ Curly Crafty Mom
I always worry about this with our house, because we have a large sweet gum tree that the previous owners planted kind of close to the house. Now you’re making me want to cut it down more than ever! Ha!!! I prefer gifts that aren’t bought the most, I think because they are harder to think up and plan. But, I do love material gifts sometimes, too! Lol! I love these neutral suspenders on you, so cute!
Carrie
curlycraftymom.com
shelbeeontheedge@gmail.com
Thanks so much, Carrie! I agree that gifts not purchased with money are super special! As far as this crazy sewer problem we experienced, I believe that most home owner’s insurance policies offer specific riders for things like this. You could look into that and if the premium for such a rider is worth it, I recommend adding it. If I had known that then, we would have added the rider, for sure!
xoxo
Shelbee
Anna at Muttonstyle
What a wonderful story. I cant imagine anyone giving strangers 5000. And well done you accepting it too.
Anna at Muttonstyle
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Thanks so much, Anna! It really was one of the moments that I will never ever forget and I will never stop being grateful for it either.
xoxo
Shelbee
Michelle
I love these stories of kindness! I think they happen far more often than we are aware. But they don’t make the news, and people are more inclined to report the bad things that happen to them. It has to do with the way are brains are wired – the bad / unpleasant occurrences may kill us so are brains are hypersensitive to such. Looking for the good things and shrugging off the rest is a skill that can be learned. But it takes practice. I applaud that you make it a point to do so on your blog.
Also? That cap is adorable!
Michelle
https://bijoubeadboutique.com
shelbeeontheedge@gmail.com
Michelle, thank you so very much! I was just talking to my therapist the other day about this exact topic…why do we focus so much on the negative and we let the positive just pass right by? It is the way our brains are wired and we need to unwire them! I guess that is part of the reason that I love to share all things positive in my blog space. There is so much goodness and kindness around us and we get caught too easily in the bad stuff. But if we focus on the good and put it out there, the universe brings it right back to us tenfold.
xoxo
Shelbee
Emma Peach
What a wonderful gesture from your neighbour! It must have been such a stressful time having sewerage in your home…yuk! You look fabulous in those cute dungarees!
Emma xxx
http://www.style-splash.com
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Emma, thank you so much! Yes, the sewage in the basement was pretty disgusting. But I had so many people being so helpful during that time. It overwhelms my heart to feel so loved.
xoxo
Shelbee
Tea
Such wonderful stories of blessings Shelbee! And you are certainly a blessing yourself. Keep being you!
Totally cute jumpsuit. 😉
xo,
Tea
http://www.whatmamawear.blogspot.com
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Aw, Tea, thank you so much! You just made my eyes get a little water in them with this comment. Have a fabulous day, my friend.
xoxo
Shelbee
Jill
Love this message and what a wonderful story! Spreading kindness is so important, especially this time of year when people are stressed and rushed!
Jill – Doused in Pink
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Thanks so much, Jill! It is so important to be always be kind because we never do know what is stressing people out either. We all struggle so offering a kind word or a simple smile can change the course of a day for a person.
xoxo
Shelbee
jodie filogomo
That is the best story ever Shelbee. Talk about uplifting and the way we should all be!!
XOXO
Jodie
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Jodie, thanks so much! It is definitely a story for the history books and one that I will never forget.
xoxo
Shelbee
Laura Bambrick
Wow! What a wonderful story! And such perfect timing too! It’s a great way to remind us all to be kind to others!
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Laura, thank you so much. The universe definitely has a way of bringing us the things that we really need when we really need them. And people really are good.
xoxo
Shelbee
Cheryl Shops
What a heartwarming story, Shelbee (the gift part, not the poop part, which sounds awful). There are always guardian angels looking out for us!
Cheryl Shops | http://www.cherylshops.net
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Thanks so much, Cheryl! I agree that the angels definitely walk amongst us and they are there when we need them most.
xoxo
Shelbee
Lia
Thanks so much for including us Shelbee! I absolutely love your page!
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Lia, thank you so much! I am so glad that you linked up with us! So many fun things bloggers come to my parties and it makes me so very happy!
xoxo
Shelbee
Deborah Stinedurf
This post brought tears to my eyes…what a beautiful soul that woman was to gift you that amazing gift…and the jacket is absolutely adorable, I can’t wait to see your son style it. Just yesterday I held the door for an elderly woman at the store and as she was walking by me she stopped in her tracks and said, “You are absolutely beautiful…I mean it. I could pay people money to do me up and I would never be as beautiful as you are…” It seriously made my day and left me speechless. PS…You look amazing as always; I can’t even tell that you have a wedgie…lol! xo
Debbie
http://www.fashionfairydust.com
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Debbie, thank you so much for this wonderful comment! What an amazing woman you encountered with such a beautiful compliment for you. She is right, you know, you are that beautiful and even more so because the beauty within your heart and soul shine straight out into the world!
If I shared any photos of my back end, you would see the wedgie! My husband said I looked like Mario from The Mario Bros.! Hahaha
xoxo
Shelbee
Suzy Turner
Your post literally made my eyes well up with tears…. and I’m wearing contact lenses for the very first time LOL! I just love to read things like this, Shelbee. That wonderful couple that helped you out when you needed it the most, is just incredible. It’s so lovely to hear of kind-hearted people like that, isn’t it? A bit like the movie, Pay it Forward (which also had me in tears lol).
I love your new jumpsuit and could also see it worn in the warm weather with a little tank top and flip flops / sandals. I think you look fabulous in it! LOVE the boots, by the way.
And how adorable is Ralphie’s new coat?!!!
Hugs hugs
Suzy xxx
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Suzy, thank you so much, my friend! If you are welling up just reading my story, imagine how Jeff and I were crying when it happened. Like I couldn’t even get words to come out of my mouth, I was crying so hard. And to see my big tough soldier husband break down in such a humble and grateful way moved me beyond words.
The jumpsuit is lighter weight so it would be so cute in the Spring or Summer with a tank top and some sneakers! I can’t wait for Ralph’s new coat to arrive. He is going to look so stinking adorable in it!
xoxo
Shelbee
Nora Minassian
Such a wonderful and uplifting story and your timing is perfect with Thanksgiving being right around the corner, we should all be more kind and thankful for all that we have.
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Nora, thank you so much! This is definitely the time of year to be more aware about sharing kindness and love as people get more stressed and can feel very lonely and sad at the holidays, too. Keep spreading kindness, my friend!
xoxo
Shelbee
lorena
Oh wow Michelle, this post certainly made me smile and regain some faith in humanity. What a lovely gesture, do you still keep in touch with the family who knocked on your door?
I had a friend who’s grandfather needed heart surgery and it was about 30k, the family was trying to get the money for it and one day they received an envelope under the door for 20k, the person asked for his name not to be revealed..
The smallest gestures make all the difference, its wonderful to read these.
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Lorena, thank you so much! Stories like this also revive my faith in humanity. We never really kept in touch with the couple who gave us that gift, but I did send them a card every Thanksgiving for a few years after. But then that just kind of faded away. They didn’t seem all that interested in maintaining any type of contact. I think they really just wanted to give a gift and move on. We will never forget the gesture though.
xoxo
Shelbee