Introducing Shelbee Says…
My brain has been running on overdrive lately trying to decide which direction I want to go with my blog. When I started blogging nearly 3 years ago, it provided a platform where I could combine two seemingly unrelated topics…fashion and mental health. As I wrote more and more posts, I began realizing that these two topics are not all that unrelated after all, with fashion, style, and self-care being a huge part of my recovery from a decade long battle with Bipolar Disorder. Then recently, I partnered with an amazing company that offers affordable online counseling services. This partnership, along with some recent conversations with friends and family, really got me thinking that I need to make a serious move in the direction of my passion, my mission, and my goals.
The background: When I finally fought my way to the surface from the dark pit of mental illness and found myself living the most fulfilling, rewarding, happiest life, I decided that my struggle had to have purpose. And that purpose is to share what I have learned on that journey with others who may be struggling with similar issues. I traveled a very long and rocky course without a road map and yet I managed to find my way to a very special place. Now I want to share that road map. It may not be the perfect guide for everyone, but it is still a guide. And that’s a pretty good start.
On that note, I want to introduce a new series at Shelbee on the Edge. But first, I have to send a giant heartfelt thank you to my friend, photographer, and soul sister, Aimee, for planting the seed, working through the details with me, and even naming the series. This was her idea and she graciously handed it over to me. I ran the idea past my ever supportive husband, my very wise sister, some lifelong friends, my amazing life coach, Susan, and some of my brilliant Forever Fierce sisters. Everyone one of them emphatically answered, “Of course you should incorporate this into your blog! That is a genius idea!” To each of you, I say thank you. Thank you for pushing me outside my comfort zone in the direction of my dreams. I would not be doing any of this if weren’t for all of your encouragement, validation, and fierce love.
So now I present to you my Sunday series, Shelbee Says…
Shelbee Says… will be a question and answer series, an advice column of sorts (although I don’t really like to “give advice”…perhaps a “suggestion column” is a better term). Basically, it will work like this…if you are dealing with life issues that have left you lost and confused, afraid and fumbling, broken and battered, and are at a loss for what to do next, I probably have some ideas that may be worth exploring. Even if you just need some assistance in finding valuable resources to help on your path to healing, I will do my best to get you connected to those resources. Or if you just need to write it all down for someone else to read (writing it down has always been so therapeutic for me), I will read it. And I will read it without judgment and meet you right where you stand.
Beginning right now, you can email your questions, concerns, issues, statements of fact, or anything really to shelbeeontheedge@gmail.com. I will publish your question in a Sunday blog post with my thoughts, suggestions, ideas, or recommendations. I will do so anonymously. I will never publish your name or reveal your identity to anyone unless you specifically request that I do so. If I have a personal experience that is relevant to the topic, I will share it in an effort to illustrate relatability and camaraderie. It is often enough to just know that you are not alone.
Disclaimer: I am not a licensed therapist. I have no professional credentials in the field of psychology, psychiatry, social work, or any other related field. I merely speak from personal experience. I am not a crisis counselor. If you are in crisis, I will refer you to a crisis hotline or your nearest emergency room. If you do not have a therapist, I may recommend that you consult with one. I can certainly help to the best of my abilities in that area if needed with suggestions and/or recommendations. I am just a regular person who fought a battle and I am passionate about helping other people live their best lives.
I hope you enjoy this series and I hope that I am successful in helping you. If not for anything else, I hope to at least provide some interesting topics for consideration.
Keeping it on the edge,
Shelbee
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41 Comments
jodie filogomo
You always come up with such great ideas, Shelbee!! I don’t know how you do it all!!
XOXO
Jodie
http://www.jtouchofstyle.com
shelbeeontheedge@gmail.com
Jodie, thank you so much! It wasn’t my idea though! Ha. It was Aimee’s. Now let’s see if I get a decent response to it! I appreciate all of your support, my friend.
xoxo
Shelbee
Sheela Goh
You go girl!! I cannot help but have goosebumps all over in anticipation of where this very personal journey will lead you, and others xoxo
shelbeeontheedge@gmail.com
Sheela, thanks so much! Now let’s just hope some questions start rolling in! As always, I appreciate your support and validation of what I do! You rock, my friend.
xoxo
Shelbee
Amy Christensen
Shelbee, this is a great idea. I believe we are often allowed to go through difficulties in life so that we can empathize and help others who are struggling along the way. It sounds like you have an awesome support group and that is key in a person finding healing. I’m looking forward to your new column!! – Amy
http://stylingrannymama.com/
shelbeeontheedge@gmail.com
Amy, thank you so much! I just hope it is received well and that I get some participation in it, too! I appreciate all of your support!
xoxo
Shelbee
Nancy
I am so proud to be your blogging friend! You are truly an amazing woman Shelbee! Congretulations on this new addition to your blog!
shelbeeontheedge@gmail.com
Nancy, thank you so much! You are always so supportive of me and I cannot express enough of my gratitude! I feel blessed to call you friend. Hugs to you!
xoxo
Shelbee
jacqui
Fabulous idea, I will look forward to reading each week. There will be many people who will benefit greatly from your blog ,well done, my friend. Jacqui
mummabstylish
shelbeeontheedge@gmail.com
Jacqui, thank you so much for your support! I really appreciate it!
xoxo
Shelbee
jacqui
Thanks for linkup on #chicandstylish today Shelbee. xx
shelbeeontheedge@gmail.com
Thanks for hosting, Jacqui!
xoxo
Shelbee
Kellyann
Sounds like a great new chapter for you Shelbee! Go for it my friend, we don’t grow if we are comfortable!
xo,
Kellyann
shelbeeontheedge@gmail.com
Thanks so much, Kellyann! I appreciate your support and your friendship more than you know!
xoxo
Shelbee
Debbie Stinedurf
Brilliant idea my friend! I look forward to seeing where this leads you. xo
Debbie
http://www.fashionfairydust.com
shelbeeontheedge@gmail.com
Thank you so much, Debbie! I hope it goes somewhere! I cannot tell you enough how much I appreciate your support and your friendship!
xoxo
Shelbee
Carrie
What a great idea, Shelbee! Looking forward to following along.
shelbeeontheedge@gmail.com
Thanks so much, Carrie! I appreciate all of your support!
xoxo
Shelbee
michelle
This sounds like such a great series! Can’t wait to read it
michellespaige.com
shelbeeontheedge@gmail.com
Thank you, Michelle! I really appreciate your support!
xoxo
Shelbee
Nina
Best wishes on this new chapter for your blog. I know it will be a huge success—you are a very thoughtful, insightful person who has boatloads of goodness to offer the world. I’m so glad you chose to push so hard to get to a point where you could enjoy your life and be an inspiration to others. I can’t wait to read your posts. Hugs, Nina http://www.sharingajourney.com
shelbeeontheedge@gmail.com
Nina, thank you so much! That really means a lot to me. I cannot express enough gratitude to you for your continued support and your friendship! Have a wonderful week, my friend.
xoxo
Shelbee
Patti
Congrats and best wishes on this new path! xox
-Patti
http://notdeadyetstyle.com
shelbeeontheedge@gmail.com
Thanks so much, Patti! I appreciate your support. Have a wonderful week!
xoxo
Shelbee
Roxanne
I can’t wait to read this! You’re definitely a wise turtle, Shelbee, and I really look forward to reading your advice. Fabulous boots, by the way!
–Roxanne
http://glassofglam.com
shelbeeontheedge@gmail.com
Roxanne, you are so sweet! I love that phrase “wise turtle”! I am going to embrace that from now on…in my green dress. Ha! I appreciate your support and your friendship so very much!
xoxo
Shelbee
Alicia O'Brien
They are some killer shoes! Love that you are using your experience to help others xx
shelbeeontheedge@gmail.com
Thanks so much, Alicia! It is my driving force (my experience, not the shoes)! Have a fabulous week!
xoxo
Shelbee
Marilee Gramith
It’s pretty clesr that you’re a very passionate person Shelbee. Your desire to use your experiences to help others is a meaningful focus for both experience and passion. I suspect this will be very challenging but also very fulfilling. I will follow your journey with great interest and I’ll be cheering you on!
shelbeeontheedge@gmail.com
Jude, thank you so much! I really cannot express enough gratitude for your continued support of my work and your friendship!
xoxo
Shelbee
Helen C.
And I thought this blog couldn’t get more interesting! 😍 I can’t wait to read the new “column”!!!
shelbeeontheedge@gmail.com
Thank you so much, Helen! I appreciate your support so much!
xoxo
Shelbee
Helen C.
I will be sending a question sooner or later 🙂 Also, I may not live in the US but I have heard about BetterHelp through a podcast that deals with mental health issues and they always get great feedback by the listeners that give it a try.
I have personally tried something similar in the past, here in Spain, and it worked great for me. When dealing with a very severe health problem of my husband for almost 5 years, my husband battling to stay in life with multiple operations and lots of pain, I was working two jobs as he couldn´t work and, as you can understand, I had no time to go visit a therapist. I was dealing with extreme stress, I was a caretaker for him while working long hours and had no family members to support or help us as they all live in other countries. The telephone therapist proved to be fantastic and I really appreciate her help.
shelbeeontheedge@gmail.com
Helen, thank you so much for sharing your experience here. I think all too often the caretakers are neglected and forgotten. Yet they are the ones who bear so much burden and need a strong support system of their own. I am so sorry to hear of the struggles both you and your husband suffered through, but I also am so glad that you reached out for help and that help was available for you on terms that were convenient to your situation. I look forward to hearing from you soon!
Hugs to you, my friend.
xoxo
Shelbee
Helen C.
Thank you, my dear Shelbee! :*
Amanda
Great idea! Love the dress too 🙂
shelbeeontheedge@gmail.com
Thank you so much, Amanda!
xoxo
Shelbee
Maureen
What a great idea Shelbee! Congratulations to the next chapter of your blog journey and I am looking forward to reading your posts. As always, I hope all is well and happy Thursday to you and family.
Maureen | http://www.littlemisscasual.com
shelbeeontheedge@gmail.com
Maureen, thank you so much! I really appreciate all of your support and kindness and, most importantly, your friendship!
xoxo
Shelbee
Emma Peach
What a fantastic idea Shelbee! You are such a kind and positive person, and it’s wonderful that you’re sharing your wisdom and experience to help others. I love your dress and boots!
Emma xxx
http://www.style-splash.com
shelbeeontheedge@gmail.com
Emma, thank you so very much! I think it’s going to be a fun series to write. I have a few questions already waiting for my answer!
xoxo
Shelbee